My 6.5 year old threw a temper tantrum at the doctor’s office today. For no apparent reason, he was unwilling to let the doctor touch him. Our doctor is wonderful and there have been no negative experiences with him, so it was out of the blue. My son was cooperative about reading the eye chart, talking about his (actually pretty healthy) diet, and telling stories about school. But when it came time for the stethoscope, he hid under the chairs. When I tried to cajole him out, he got angry. When I tried to assert my authority and say he was GOING to do the physical exam, he cried more, screamed lots, and kept hiding. We left with no exam. What have I learned?
That once again parenting is an unpredictable science that requires constant vigilance! I am patting myself on the back for not getting too embarrassed in front of the doctor. He may be judging me as a bad parent, but I know that I was faced with a bewildering response from my child that is going to take me some time to sort through. It is only about 6 hours later and I still do not understand it. I’m sure we will eventually get to the doctor’s office and my son will have a positive experience, but in the meantime, I am just …
thinking about him
loving him as he is
trying to be gentle to myself, because it is not easy to face temper tantrums
asking the Universe for a path to a better experience next time