Hire a doula because, when all is said and done, she is the only one at your hospital birth (besides your family and friends) who answers to you as her final boss.
Your midwife, doctor, and nurse are probably wonderful and probably they want to help you achieve the birth you want. But midwives, doctors, and nurses who work in hospitals have to answer to a lot more people than just you. They have to answer their colleagues. If they manage births in an unusual manner, and in today’s world, “unusual” may mean “more natural” just because of the statistical realities of interventions, their colleagues can exert subtle or not-so-subtle pressure to get back in line. And they have to answer hospital review boards and insurance companies. Insurance companies have a lot of impact on our medical institutions. Since obstetricians are the most-sued doctors in America, you can imagine that insurance companies care how they are practicing!
But doulas do not answer hospital review boards or insurance companies. They answer to mothers. Doulas are there for mothers. It is their entire job. One hundred percent. They do not have to spend time during your labor inputting lots of data into computers. They are focused on how you feel.
So it is definitely a good idea to make sure that your entire birth team is on board with your birth vision. It’s a great idea to make sure your care provider can handle whatever comes up (even if that means transferring your care. Transferring is still great care.). But it’s also helpful to hire someone who answers only to you. When you look in her eyes for reassurance in your decision-making process, you can be certain that she is reassuring YOU. She is helping you make the best decision for YOU.
Do you have any stories that exemplify this? I’d love to hear them!